In Katherine Bindley's Article,
Facebook Relationship Problems: How Social Networking And Jealousy Affect Your Love Life, she articulates the problems that can arise from "Facebook jealousy" and explains why these issues begin.
Katherine
Bindley disagree with the belief that Facebook relationships are
beneficial. In her article, Bindley cites various cases in which Facebook led
to distrust, jealousy and even an asthma attack. Bindley proposes that
“analyzing a wall post on your significant other’s page, stewing over a
suspicious picture but not actually asking about it…have been known to tank
relationships.” In addition, Facebook has been connected to the experience of
jealously in romantic relationships and has also been linked to divorce cases.
In her article, Bindley goes on to describe the types of online behavior that
is viewed as questionable by partners in a relationship, and goes into detail
about how these behaviors can lead to distrust, jealousy and resentment. These issues mentioned in her article are important in today's society due to the rapid change in the way relationships are formed and maintained. It seems as though a relationship isn't "official" until it is published on Facebook, at least in some cases, and this trend is generally more prominent in my generation.
Personally, I can attest to the arguments that Bindley mentions in her article. One issue Bindley mentions is "Facebook secrecy," which is when one person sees a photo or wall post on their significant other's wall, analyzes it, jumps to a radical conclusion, and then fails to mention any of it to their significant other. Whether it is mistrust, or just a lack of interest in the truth, failing to mention something that bothers you can lead to further mistrust and jealously. In my personal experience, I think that some people just don't want to come off as being over-intrusive, so they pretend to ignore the things on Facebook that bother them. Unfortunately, this seems to be one of the major trends that can lead to Facebook jealously.
So what do you think? Can Facebook relationships destroy what they were meant to maintain? And what do you think causes this destruction? Or do they have the ability to be conducive to relationships?
In my opinion I don't think Facebook creates new problems for relationships it just exposes or magnifies ones that already exist. If a significant other is questioning a photo or wall post but can't communicate their feelings towards it, would that relationship have worked even if Facebook didn't exist? I think it depends on the type of people that enter a relationship and just how well they get along with one another.
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I definitely believe that Facebook has the capability to create problems within romantic relationships. I think how much you let social media affect your relationships and whether or not you let it destroy your relationships is up to you and depends on what kind of person you are. I think that when people see something small, such as a girl commenting on a boy's status or a boy liking a girl's picture, can be misconstrued into something it's not. I really believe that communication is super important for maintaing relationships, with or without Facebook.
ReplyDeleteI believe that by sharing one's romantic relationship (changing relationship status, posting obvious romantic posts to someone, pictures, etc.) they are making the matter public and therefore should be ready for any consequences that could come from this. I definitely agree that Facebook relationships have the ability to destroy what they were meant to maintain, but I also feel as though it depends on the maturity of the people in the relationship.
ReplyDeleteIf your relationship can't last facebook then I have to question whether your relationship can last actual life factors such as getting married, moving in together, or having and raising children together.
ReplyDeletePeople who aren't 100% sure about a relationship will easily fall to distractions such as a message from a new person thus lose interest in the one they are with. So for unstable people, facebook is an relationship enemy.
I agree with jalen i don't see facebook creating problems for people in relationships but that it just magnifies the problems because it now allows others to comment or give input on your relationship.and on top of the you start to unnecessary examine your partners comments and photos and cause you to question your relationship even more.
ReplyDeleteI feel there do exist something like "Facebook jealousy", but I think it usually comes from the people who are not actually familiar with you and not live close to you. Since people always choose their best aspects of life to post on the Facebook, it causes many people live like a princes or princesses. However, when you jealous for others' lives, at the mean while, there may be another group of people have some feeling about you. I think Facebook may mislead some people's opnion about your life, but those people cannot be your close or care about the most people. They usually are the people you can not meet in the daily life or lose contact for a long time. Everyone has limit energy to handle their social life. From my perspective, it is not necessary to care about the opnion from the one you may never meet again because they do not care about you either, they just want to compete their lives with you.
ReplyDeleteI think the problem comes when couples or relationships in general simply rely solely on Facebook or social media to connect or maintain a connection. The metaphorical (and literal) distance usually proves too much in my opinion, and little actions in the form of posts or photos even can lead to disagreements and misunderstandings without that physical closeness a relationship desires. However, Facebook IN ADDITION to nondigital interaction is not a bad thing in my opinion. As long as Facebook is supplemental, not essential.
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AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com maraming salamat sa sir sa pagpapanumbalik ng aking dating kasintahan bumalik sa akin, ang kanyang email: AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com o tumawag / whatsapp: +2349057261346